🔥 LORENA 🔥

Deeply flawed

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I am good at hiding high expectations. I tend to try to meet the high expectations of others, out of the guilt I feel for having high expectations myself. I wish I could meet someone’s realistic needs, from a place of love and communicate which expectations I’m unable to meet enthustically long term. When I am single this seems pretty innocent, being disciplined, but in a relationship it seems more like a flaw, to expect discipline.

Maybe I could embrace this compatible shadow side (if he has this side as well) on the BJJ grappling mat. This way he knows how easy it is to make me submit and I’ll know that he fights fair, eventhough he is stronger. Maybe he is even sweet enough to teach me how to make him submit on the mat. Next to this we could try structured debates.

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I am good at hiding how quickly I fall in love. I tend to avoid people, tend to close off, out of the guilt I feel towards a partner I’m in a relationship with, because I’m afraid to fall in love with another person. I wish I could keep my heart open, enjoy people around me and accept how this might hurt who I’m in a relationship with and communicate how I feel. When I am single this seems pretty innocent, a big heart, but in a relationship it seems more like a flaw, to be so open.

That’s why I would like to embrace the compatible shadow side of a partner. Support their innerchild. Instead of expecting them to be shadow free, like I badly try to be, perfect. I am deeply flawed. Being present with their shadow and innerchild is my gesture to say: “I see you and I love you anyways.” I need this kind of love to be mutual, to feel free in a longterm relationship.

Most common argument: “I trust you, but I don’t trust most men to be around you.”