🔍 DISSECT 🔍
My challenge is to think in possibilities instead of black and white thinking, when making a choice.
Blonde👱🏾♀️ Black👩🏾
Program👩🏾💻 Cook👩🏾🍳
Considering:
Temperament
Agreeable: 85%
Neurotic: 75%
Introvert: 60%
Open: 70%
Concientious: 60%
Needs
Leentje feels important when (Loreen spends time, energy, money on her needs, regularly, often):
Need for safety:
🤫 Silent time: 🥋 stop Perfecti 🦸🏾♀️ move Lorena 💋 affirm Leentje.Therapy😁😱😭😡🩺.
Need to play, have fun:
Discover🕵🏾♀️ 🌎🇨🇼🇳🇱🇺🇸🇪🇦🇪🇬🇮🇱🇷🇺🇨🇳 🤖 📚💙 👁️👁️Feel💓 💚🌊🦶🏾🌅⛱️☀️👃🏾🌳🗿
Need for autonomy:
Take a step 🚶🏾♀️on a healthy path💞💚💛👼👨👧.Receive a I-believe-in-you kiss💋 stamp for a new step 🚶🏾♀️.Picture a future🔮.
Need for realistic boundaries:
Let go of unhealthy bonds💔 and receive healthy attention instead, like coaching😁😱🩺, physio😭🩺, training😡🥋🥊.Discover🕵🏾♀️ new healthy ways to connect 💛.
Need for freedom: …
Leentje feels special when (Loreen spends time, energy, money on her favorits, as spontaneous as possible):
💜💃🏾Dance class: classical ballet🩰 class 🧜🏾♀️🧚🏾♀️👸🏾.
🧡👩🏾🍳Home made dish: pancakes🥞, brownies🍫.
💙🎞️ Cinema: watch a magical💛 movie.
💚🧺 Beach: enjoy a sweet (like hot chocolate milk🍫 with whipped cream), juicy (like a herring sandwich) picknick on/near the beach🏖️⛱️🌅🌤️👃🏾👂🏾👁️👁️👅🚶🏾♀️🦶🏾.
Perceived unfairness
Death
Antagonistic and callous mechanisms
Nightmares
Blind spot bias
Validation seeking mechanisms of Lorena
Is there something Loreen can do about the unfairness?If so, can Loreen adapt without hurting, to make it less unfair?
Good luck🍀 future🔮 pictured
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Possible solutions
👩🏾👱🏾♀️
Try (open 70%) blonde box braids for a month or two and see how it feels.
Try (open 70%) black box braids for a month or two and see how it feels.
Leentje🧜🏾♀️🧚🏾♀️👸🏾(open 70%) loves playing with wigs, color contacts, make-up💅🏾💄,
clothes👠👗👙, because of how excited it feels to see a new different look, which temporarily relieves feelings of boredom. Lorena craves 👀 validation,
receives validation and repeats receiving this special feeling while wearing these.
Which might make Leentje👧🏾 feel unseen. That’s why Loreen could once in a while try playing🎠 with these wigs, make-up etc as spontaneous as possible, join a – costume – party for example and see how it feels.
