Dear Leentje,

Make your own choices. You feel very afraid when you do. It makes you short of breath and your heart beat faster. It’s very stressful. How awful. This is old pain. We cannot control how others react to the choices we make. You are safe. I am here. Hold my hand. Look at me. I am very proud of you. Believe: I will take care of your needs, boundaries and emotions, if necessary with the help of others. Believe: those who make eyecontact are trustworthy in that moment. Let’s count how many times (up to ten) this is true. Receive their love, attention, acceptance. You belong. You are loved. You are important, magnificent and of value the way you are. You got this. I believe in you.

Much love,

Loreen