Dear Leentje,

You think it’s unfair how the choices of others affect you. That is unfair. I see your frustration. You feel very ashamed, disgusted and afraid. This is old pain. We cannot control how others behave. Make your own choices. They are yours to make. You are safe. I am here. Hold my hand. I will take care of you. I will communicate your boundaries, emotions and needs, if necessary with the help of others. You are important, magnificent and of value the way you are.

Much love,

Loreen