🥂 New Year’s Eve 🥂

What habit do I want to carry into 2024?

I want to continue my habit of a grieving ritual, which helps me stay calm by expressing emotions. Cooking, once more anxiety-inducing, became more enjoyable as I processed emotions related to my mother. This ritual, done on specific days, allows me to navigate present challenges or relive past events peacefully.

Anticipating, preparing, creating a little party on my plate and enjoying the present brings me calm. Balancing this joy with meeting a potential special friend’s needs is crucial; I need to maintain my enjoyment without feeling obligated to cook.

Avoiding toys during intimate moments provides stability to prevent extreme peaks and deep lows. Instead, I need to discover ways to fulfill my need for play in and outside the bedroom. Balancing extreme peaks and deep lows experienced with a special friend and responsibilities is crucial too; I need this balance, this stability, for my healthy adult mode to keep functioning.

Communicating with strangers, acquaintances, and (distant) contacts like the ones I pray for, through warm written words and homemade food.

Celebrating holidays in a small, cozy yet joyful way. Where there is space for both laughter and tears.

Trying merengue dancing to uplift my mood.

Taking steps outside regurarly.

Do I want to develop new habits in 2024? If so, which ones?

Expressing feelings through written words or food is a good icebreaker. I aim to learn verbal expressions too. The challenge lies in transitioning from letters and food to spoken words step by step.

Keeping work and private life more separate by meeting my need to play and have fun outside of work. Preferably, mainly at home and as a bonus outdoors.

Which possibilities in 2024 evoke a curious, enthusiastic, and/or excited feeling in me?

The anticipation of summer and spring excites me, driven by the delightful sun and the prospect of developing new festive traditions.

What does my ideal New Year’s Eve look like?

Reflecting on achievements and gratitude with a New Year’s cake, reviewing collected evidence, and enjoying familiar treats like croquettes and oliebollen make for an ideal New Year’s Eve. Contemplating questions with a New Year’s cake and possibly a New Year’s dive! Sharing these moments with a special friend creates an ideal scenario.